Holiday - Day 2 (29/7/2008)

My holidays are still boring but i will keep trying to make it interesting.
Today, i flip through my younger sister moral text book and i found an interesting story that i used to told by my teacher when I'm still in primary school. There is a story told of the six blind men who went to 'see' an elephant. I think most of us are familiar with this story. I feel it was interesting and want to share it out. Since they were blind, they could not see the whole elephant. Each felt a part of the elephant and each interpreted that the elephant looked like the part he felt. The one who touched a side declared that it was like a wall; the one who touched the tail declared that it was long and thin and so on. None would agree with the views if the others; not having had the same experience. This story actually illustrated how argument arise. It is a matter of each person in an argument seeing things only from his viewpoint while being unable, or refusing, to see the viewpoints of anyone else.

Actually, from birth we grow up seeing the world as dictated by our parents and other adults in our lives. Each of us actually are moulded to see the world in a certain way at the exclusion of other ways. In fact, many of us grow up and think that there is only one way of looking at things and are surprised when others do not see them the way we do. This might be a survival instinct. From a young age, each of us is trained to think in a certain way to ensure our very survival. If we do not do what the adults want us to do, they will abandon us or hurt us or punish us so that we will shrivel and die. In time our ways of doing things become habits and it takes a great emotional jolt to ever change our views. Hence we argue hotly that our views are right while all differing ones are wrong.

So the only way we can win an argument is to make the other person see the same view as ourselves.Since it is likely that the other person is as powerfully programmed to his point of view just as we are to our point of view, we never really win an argument. Of course, out of courtesy or fear, we can get another person to see our point of view, but to actually convince them about our correctness and to his 'wrongness' is usually impossible. Such being the case, arguments never really come to an end and are therefore never settled.

Obviously, I'm one of them. Whenever people have a different opinion with me , i will just ignore them and concluded it as a wrong opinion. I always think my decision or opinion is the right one and i never do things wrong but the others will. I know I'm stubborn and i won't accept people's opinion easily. I hate people who actually not agree with you but they do so just because they don't want to argue with you. What is the point you agree with something that you actually not agree. To get rid of arguments? Is that the way you deal with people? Being a nice person with this way will just help you to lost your own principal. Maybe argument would not be the best way to solve problems but we still can go for some rational discussion and try to make a conclusion for everyone to accept it. But i think most of the people won't do that because their thinking are too conservative. They just want every things come with peace and try to get rid from problem. Maybe i should be one of them, so that this world will be more peaceful.

will be continue ~